Generally speaking, Hedo 2 and the spanish resorts may have less of a problem with your being gay.
Personally? I think that a gay couple even considering coming to Jamaica for a honeymoon is rather disrespectful of local culture. There are certain things i would NEVER do if vacationing in the middle east and i suggest that you view Jamaica in a similar light.
As a cultural rule: JAMAICANS DO NOT like gays. On one hand, I do not CONDONE violence against gays, but on the other hand, i think Jamaicans have a right to have thier culture respected. You call it 'homophobia', while most jamaicans call it a 'cultural and moral standard'. The more Jamaicans feel disrespected? The angrier they will get on this issue.
EDIT:
A Model 2 Bee - "i keep hearing about endless gays going to jamaica and never coming back (beacuse they are dead). "
Really? That's an outright lie. There have been MANY cases of gays being beaten and harrassed, but NOT endless cases of that and not 'endless' deaths or dissappearances either. Gay people walk around EVERY parish of Jamaica, EVERY day.